Shout out to the good guys!

My husband and I talk a lot. Every evening, we get home from work and we share the details of our days. He’s very loving and supportive of the work I do at CAPSA. However, sometimes he’ll comment or joke about all men being monsters.

I told him I watched #That’sHarassment PSA’s by the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. I explained how uncomfortable I felt watching them, and it made me feel like I never wanted to be near a man again. After that comment he jokingly asked if that’s why I didn’t want to hug him when I got home.

Sometimes it seems like advocacy against sexual assault is advocacy against men. There has been a lot of discussion about Aziz Ansari and if the publicized sexual encounter with him was assault or not. On Twitter, there are women and men making comments such as, “If that’s assault then every woman I know has been assaulted.” In response to those comments some women are saying, “That’s exactly the point.”

The #YesAllWomen hashtag indicates that all men may not be abusers, but every woman has been abused or harassed within her lifetime. The #MeToo movement also had many women telling their stories of sexual harassment and unwanted advances. I was surprised when I read #MeToo stories written by my friends and family members.

Sexual assault and domestic violence are no small issues. 1 in 4 women nationally, and 1 in 3 women in Utah will be affected by abuse within their lifetimes. There are heart-wrenching, disturbing stories of abuse. Two notable examples are Warren Jeffs & the FLDS community and Larry Nassar’s abuse of more than 100 athletes.

This is a big deal, and I agree that #TimesUp and it’s time for women and men who have been abused to be heard, validated and liberated from fear. I also just want to emphasize that not all men are monsters. Not all men take advantage of a situation. Not all men are sexist and not all men are looking for a sexual favor in return for a kind act.

I want to thank the many men in my life who have kept me safe and made me feel safe.

First among them will always be my husband. He has never pressured me into anything. Before or after we got married, he understood and respected my feelings and desires. He accepted it if I needed space; he accepted it if I wasn’t in a cuddly mood and he never has asked me to do anything I may not want to or may feel uncomfortable with.

My co-workers have also made me feel safe. As a college student, Brandon was my boss. I knew he would always protect me if ever there was a need.

Also in college, I received a soccer jersey from Mexico with the bread sponsor, Bimbo, on the front. I liked the jersey so I decided to wear it. Though one man did ask me how others felt walking with a bimbo, the majority of men respected me and talked about how cool it was that I liked soccer and knew the team.

In high school, there was a classmate named Wyatt who ended a conversation when it became sexist. I was grateful for Wyatt and grateful for his desire to end the conversation instead of participating or speaking in hushed tones.

And still there’s my father, my father-in-law and all my brothers. There’s my current co-workers, and my neighbors. There are the kind strangers and grocery store workers who will cheerfully help you to your car when desired. Though the world can be a tough place, and abuse is prevalent, there are still so many wonderful, amazing men in the world, and they deserve a shout out.

Katie Stringham | Development Support Coordinator | Katie@capsa.org

New Board Members: Christy Glass & Beth Foley

This December, CAPSA has welcomed two new members to its governing board: Christy Glass and Beth Foley. Below is a little bit about them.

Dr. Christy Glass received her Master’s and PhD in Sociology from Yale University. Following her graduation, she began teaching at Utah State University in 2005. In 2016, she was named Researcher of the Year for the College of Humanities and Social Sciences. Glass primarily studies women in the workforce and their barriers toward promotion, as well as how mothers are perceived in a work environment.

Thank you, Christy for joining with CAPSA to make a difference.

 

Dr. Beth Foley is Dean of the College of Education and Human Services at Utah State University. She earned her bachelor’s, master’s and doctoral degrees in communication disorders from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, and she began teaching at Utah State in 1993. She served as head of the Department of Communicative Disorders and Deaf Education from 2004 to 2009. She has also served in the community by aiding individuals with communication disorders at the Cache Employment and Training Center. Internationally, Foley has worked with children in a Mexican orphanage called Gabriel House.

Thank you, Beth for your work!

Learn about the role our board members play on our blog.

Board Meetings

Board meetings and board members, what are they for? A non-profit governing board serves many purposes. First and foremost, the board oversees financial and legal decisions. CAPSA’s governing board approves new hires and salary increases. They also make new policies such as our Donor Privacy Policy. CAPSA board members have also testified before the state legislature about the need for funding to ensure continued use of the LAP.

Board members provide support for CAPSA, it’s employees, it’s events and it’s mission. CAPSA board members assist the organization by helping organize and facilitate events. Throughout December, board members open and close the CAPSA gift wrap. During the spring, members help plan and execute the 5K, and members make invitations to friends, family and associates to attend events such as CAPSA’s Wine Pairing and Trivia Night.

Our board consists of university professors, accountants, law enforcement personnel, business owners, stay-at-home moms and lawyers. The diversity of our board members should be reflective of the valley. It should also allow for in-depth discussions about how CAPSA’s policies and practices will affect various community members. Domestic violence is no respecter of persons, and neither is our board. We want to know what the challenges and barriers would be to both a businesswomen and a police officer facing a domestic violence situation. By having a variety of backgrounds represented, a healthy dialogue can be created.

Board members are constant representatives of CAPSA. Board members tell their friends, family and colleagues about CAPSA and it’s latest initiatives. Board members invite their connections to Lunch with CAPSA or on a tour of our facilities, so that men and women throughout the valley can learn more about our services, and how we can help them. Board members are also advocates within the community.

Truthfully, our board members do a lot. There is no limit to their influence on CAPSA and it’s employees, and there’s no adequate way to express our gratitude for them.

Thank you to our board members: Beth Foley, Brad Franke, Chris Guymon, Christy Glass, Donna Alder, Jan Stander, Kacie Malouf, Mike Guthrie, Ronda Callister, Scott Stettler and Tara Williams. You all are amazing and do tremendous work on behalf of CAPSA.

To learn more about how a non-profit board should run, visit Nonprofits Are Messy by Joan Garry Consulting.

 

The History of CAPSA

In 1976, two high-profile rape cases occurred on Utah State University’s campus. This troubled many community members, and deciding to act, they created the Cache Valley Rape Crisis Team. The team was a hotline and calls were directed toward the university’s Women’s Center.

In 1979, Utah passed a spousal abuse act, which made domestic violence illegal. With this legislation, both the need and funding for domestic violence shelters increased. The response team changed it’s name to Citizens Against Physical & Sexual Abuse, and community members began housing individuals within their own homes.

It wasn’t until 1984 that CAPSA gained enough monetary support to allow a shelter to be purchased. The board then hired CAPSA’s first five full-time employees, and on Valentine’s Day of 1985, CAPSA began serving clients.

Also in 1985, Somebody’s Attic was formed to address CAPSA’s need for continual funding. A CAPSA board member created the organization with the idea that all sale proceeds from the items donated would go to CAPSA. Since its inception, Somebody’s Attic has raised more than $1 million to help end abuse. In 2017, CAPSA received more than $60,000 from Somebody’s Attic.

With this new source of funding, CAPSA was able to form the Mobile Crisis Team in 1992. Team members then and now meet with victims of abuse and stay with them as a rape exam is completed or as they recount what happened to law enforcement personnel. Members of the Mobile Crisis Team are seen as both advocates and friends to the victim, and they are there when family, friends, roommates and others cannot be. When the crisis team was created in 1992, it was the first of it’s kind in the state of Utah.

Ten years after the Mobile Crisis Team was created, a new shelter opened in 2002. This shelter nearly doubled the capacity of CAPSA’s previous shelter and allowed for two new living room areas and kitchens.

In 2017, CAPSA expanded again, when it opened the Gail Bird Weinshenker Therapy Center and the Mary Flynn Palley Children’s Center. These needed additions aid CAPSA staff as they provide therapy and other services to all individuals in need within Cache & Rich Counties.

To learn more about CAPSA’s expansions and current initiatives, follow us on Facebook or contact Katie Stringham at katie@capsa.org.

Thank you, Gail

At the beginning of October, Gail Weinshenker stepped down from the CAPSA Board. A tremendous force for good, we want to thank her for the indescribable amount of service she has given to CAPSA throughout the years.

In 2016, Weinshenker’s gift of $100,000 allowed CAPSA to

move forward with it’s plans to renovate and expand it’s therapy services and children’s center.

A constant supporter of CAPSA, many employees remember her for her generosity, and her willingness to give whatever she could to CAPSA.

“She donated hand-made purses, large pillows with hand-made pillow cases, clothing, and just so much of her time and her heart to CAPSA,” Katie Stringham, CAPSA’s Development Support Coordinator said.

Along with giving to CAPSA, Weinshenker has improved the lives of students at Utah State University and members of the Cache Valley Center of the Arts’, through her donations of artifacts and money to both organizations.

Learn more of Gail’s giving nature through the following articles:

Major gift helps CAPSA develop needed therapy area and children’s center

Great Chair-ity Challenge decorates sidewalks of Main Street

USU College of Science Honors Scholars, Donors at Fall Convocation