Holidays typically mean time with family, with people we love and who love us too. These much-needed breaks provide a time to rest and recharge as you enjoy spending time with loved ones. However, sometimes this means helping loved ones who are dealing with abuse.
If your loved one tells you they are experiencing abuse, start by believing. If they come to you it is because they trust you and feel safe with you, the best thing you can do is to respect that.
Here are some tips for how to be supportive of loved ones being abused.
Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject. Talk to your friend or relative. Ask where they would feel comfortable talking, keeping in mind privacy and safe locations.
Acknowledge their situation. Let the person know it is not their fault. The responsibility lies with the person who has hurt them. Let them know that it is okay to feel hurt, sad, humiliated, etc. Give them a chance to vent their feelings.
Validate their experience. Let them know that you are concerned for their physical and emotional safety and if they have children, that you are concerned for their children as well.
Let them know there is help available. Encourage them to call CAPSA to discuss a safety plan and learn about community resources.
Respect their choices. Survivors of domestic violence may return to the abusive relationship many times. Do not abandon them (even when it is discouraging). Never let them believe that they have lost their chance to come to you again, if needed.
Caring for a family member in these situations is never easy, but remember that you are not alone. CAPSA can help you and your loved ones plan for safety and get connected to helpful resources.
Call our Support Line at 435-753-2500 to find out how CAPSA can help.
https://www.capsa.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Holiday-Blog-Post.jpg6101600Maddie Sotohttps://www.capsa.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/capsaLogo.pngMaddie Soto2019-12-18 12:25:302023-05-26 12:16:43Holidays – Supporting a family or friend experiencing domestic violence
CAPSA’s Emergency Shelter provides a safe place for individuals and families fleeing domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape to escape and begin healing. The Shelter is designed as a home and clients stay for an average of 30 days. It has a large kitchen stocked, multiple living rooms and 8 private, family-size bedrooms (32 beds).
It is set up to ensure safety and meet basic needs of individuals and families. As clients begin a new life without abuse, survivors work with Shelter Caseworkers to identify and develop plans to address the specific challenges in their lives.
Zero Turn-A-Way Program
CAPSA developed the Zero Turn-A-Way program to ensure there is always a safe place for qualified clients – individuals and families living in Cache Valley and the Bear Lake area who are fleeing domestic violence or displaced because of rape or stalking.
If you are living in Cache Valley or the Bear Lake area and need help escaping from an abusive relationship, CAPSA can help you. You do not have to worry that there will not be space for you, or that you will not be believed.
We believe you.
If you need help escaping an abusive relationship, call CAPSA’s Support Line at 435-753-2500 to find out how we can help.
Supporting Zero Turn-A-Way
CAPSA’s Zero Turn-A-Way program is the first of its kind in Utah. It is funded through payroll deductions by local organizations (currently Malouf and Stander) who support and believe in CAPSA’s mission. These businesses have allowed CAPSA to present to their employees who then donate a small amount each pay check. These donations ensure CAPSA has room in our shelter or helps CAPSA find creative, safe, and short-term options while helping develop more permanent plans.
Please contact James Boyd at 435-753-2500 if your business is interested in payroll deduction.
https://www.capsa.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Featured-Image.jpg310800Maddie Sotohttps://www.capsa.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/capsaLogo.pngMaddie Soto2019-11-19 09:56:242023-05-26 12:17:19CAPSA’s Shelter is a Zero Turn A Way Shelter
CAPSA’s Emergency Shelter provides a safe place for individuals and families fleeing domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape to escape and begin healing. The Shelter provides a foundation for survivors to build from; it is set up to ensure safety and meet basic needs of individuals and families.
The Shelter is designed as a home. It has a large kitchen stocked with essentials where residents can cook for themselves and their families, laundry rooms for clothing, and private, family-size bedrooms. Beds are furnished with Malouf sheets and pillows and are finished with handmade quilts.
When survivors arrive at Shelter they are coming from traumatic situations and need time to cope and adapt before moving forward. CAPSA’s Advocates are trauma informed, and work with each survivor to ensure safety, help file Protective Orders when needed, and develop an action plan for overcoming their specific obstacles.
Clients can leave when they need for work, to take their kids to school, run errands, and conduct their lives, knowing they have a safe home to return to.
Shelter Clients
The Emergency Shelter is a resource for people in Cache Valley and the Bear Lake area fleeing abusive situations. Most who use it are fleeing serious danger, but it is open to people displaced due to domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape.
The Shelter is a resource for people who need it, not a requirement for enrolling in services. Survivors should call CAPSA’s Support Line to discuss safety plans and see what CAPSA can offer them.
Often, survivors arrive lacking basic necessities such as shoes or winter clothes, having fled dangerous situations without time to prepare. When they make it to CAPSA, we help provide what they need.
How Long Can I Stay in the Shelter?
CAPSA works to create long-term solutions for Shelter clients in as short a time as possible. That means completing action plan items, finding jobs, housing, food stamps, etc., so that clients can be independent and begin rebuilding their lives. Sometimes this takes a while, and sometimes safety remains an issue through a client’s stay in Shelter.
CAPSA works with you to accommodate for your needs. We will not abandon you to an abuser or the street because your new house is not ready, or your job does not start until next month. We start by believing, and we continue by listening.
Please, call CAPSA’s Support Line at 435-753-2500 if you are fleeing abuse and need help for you or your children.
Holidays – Supporting a family or friend experiencing domestic violence
Holidays typically mean time with family, with people we love and who love us too. These much-needed breaks provide a time to rest and recharge as you enjoy spending time with loved ones. However, sometimes this means helping loved ones who are dealing with abuse.
If your loved one tells you they are experiencing abuse, start by believing. If they come to you it is because they trust you and feel safe with you, the best thing you can do is to respect that.
Here are some tips for how to be supportive of loved ones being abused.
Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject. Talk to your friend or relative. Ask where they would feel comfortable talking, keeping in mind privacy and safe locations.
Acknowledge their situation. Let the person know it is not their fault. The responsibility lies with the person who has hurt them. Let them know that it is okay to feel hurt, sad, humiliated, etc. Give them a chance to vent their feelings.
Validate their experience. Let them know that you are concerned for their physical and emotional safety and if they have children, that you are concerned for their children as well.
Let them know there is help available. Encourage them to call CAPSA to discuss a safety plan and learn about community resources.
Respect their choices. Survivors of domestic violence may return to the abusive relationship many times. Do not abandon them (even when it is discouraging). Never let them believe that they have lost their chance to come to you again, if needed.
Caring for a family member in these situations is never easy, but remember that you are not alone. CAPSA can help you and your loved ones plan for safety and get connected to helpful resources.
Call our Support Line at 435-753-2500 to find out how CAPSA can help.
CAPSA’s Shelter is a Zero Turn A Way Shelter
CAPSA’s Emergency Shelter provides a safe place for individuals and families fleeing domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape to escape and begin healing. The Shelter is designed as a home and clients stay for an average of 30 days. It has a large kitchen stocked, multiple living rooms and 8 private, family-size bedrooms (32 beds).
It is set up to ensure safety and meet basic needs of individuals and families. As clients begin a new life without abuse, survivors work with Shelter Caseworkers to identify and develop plans to address the specific challenges in their lives.
CAPSA developed the Zero Turn-A-Way program to ensure there is always a safe place for qualified clients – individuals and families living in Cache Valley and the Bear Lake area who are fleeing domestic violence or displaced because of rape or stalking.
If you are living in Cache Valley or the Bear Lake area and need help escaping from an abusive relationship, CAPSA can help you. You do not have to worry that there will not be space for you, or that you will not be believed.
We believe you.
If you need help escaping an abusive relationship, call CAPSA’s Support Line at 435-753-2500 to find out how we can help.
Supporting Zero Turn-A-Way
CAPSA’s Zero Turn-A-Way program is the first of its kind in Utah. It is funded through payroll deductions by local organizations (currently Malouf and Stander) who support and believe in CAPSA’s mission. These businesses have allowed CAPSA to present to their employees who then donate a small amount each pay check. These donations ensure CAPSA has room in our shelter or helps CAPSA find creative, safe, and short-term options while helping develop more permanent plans.
Please contact James Boyd at 435-753-2500 if your business is interested in payroll deduction.
CAPSA’s Emergency Shelter
The Shelter is a Confidential and Free Service
CAPSA’s Emergency Shelter provides a safe place for individuals and families fleeing domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape to escape and begin healing. The Shelter provides a foundation for survivors to build from; it is set up to ensure safety and meet basic needs of individuals and families.
When survivors arrive at Shelter they are coming from traumatic situations and need time to cope and adapt before moving forward. CAPSA’s Advocates are trauma informed, and work with each survivor to ensure safety, help file Protective Orders when needed, and develop an action plan for overcoming their specific obstacles.
Clients can leave when they need for work, to take their kids to school, run errands, and conduct their lives, knowing they have a safe home to return to.
Shelter Clients
The Emergency Shelter is a resource for people in Cache Valley and the Bear Lake area fleeing abusive situations. Most who use it are fleeing serious danger, but it is open to people displaced due to domestic violence, sexual assault, and rape.
The Shelter is a resource for people who need it, not a requirement for enrolling in services. Survivors should call CAPSA’s Support Line to discuss safety plans and see what CAPSA can offer them.
Often, survivors arrive lacking basic necessities such as shoes or winter clothes, having fled dangerous situations without time to prepare. When they make it to CAPSA, we help provide what they need.
How Long Can I Stay in the Shelter?
CAPSA works with you to accommodate for your needs. We will not abandon you to an abuser or the street because your new house is not ready, or your job does not start until next month. We start by believing, and we continue by listening.
Please, call CAPSA’s Support Line at 435-753-2500 if you are fleeing abuse and need help for you or your children.